Tuesday, November 18, 2008

Overcoming What Ails Us!

From: Richard Flyer | Posted: Monday, September 15th, 2008

Category: Success | Sub-Category: Living Your Purpose | Tags: Community, Love, World

Every four years in the U.S. we see the same misguided and blind hope -- that somehow some politician is going to make things right for us and fix the brokenness of our lives and the world, e.g. war, global warming, economy, poverty, etc. And then we end up disillusioned because it doesn't happen. Why? Because human beings get the government and society we deserve. Our government and society are a reflection of how we actually are within ourselves and how we live -- a reflection of our individual and collective consciousness.

It’s time to face the reality: All social, cultural, political, environmental, and economic issues are interrelated and have spiritual root causes. Conflicts in societies are a mirrored reflection of the battles inside us. As Pogo said, "We have met the enemy, and it is us."

To change our governments and change the world, then, we have to change ourselves and the real communities which we inhabit at the same time.

Spending so much of our energy on continually hoping to get real "change" in large institutions without working concretely on the root of the problem in the sphere of human and community consciousness does not make sense. It doesn't mean that we should withdraw from that sphere of social and political life, it is just that the time has come to build up grass roots community consciousness in a more long-term and radical undertaking.


There are millions of small organizations, both spiritual and community-based, that are already making a difference at the grass roots level and acting as a countervailing “movement” to unresponsive institutions. With all these groups and people doing good, why does it seem that the forces of negativity are overwhelming them? The answer to this question is no further than our own hearts.

Most groups come together with a particular affinity: for example, those on a particular spiritual path like Christian, Jewish, Muslim, Buddhist, New Spirituality, or people with strong feelings on specific issues like local food, environment, peace, and wellness, or political affinities like Democrat or Republican, etc.

Because of our human nature, we identify with groups and hang out with people who think like us or who have the same beliefs. The dark side of group identification, though, is that we often unwittingly participate in dividing our society and community into those who believe like us and those who don't. This tendency stems, in part from the evolutionary history of humanity where tribalism was a vehicle to protect ourselves from others. Stanely Milgram’s now famous experiment, where people were asked to “electrocute a stranger,” and actually did so, revealed our primal and “fear-based” human nature to conform to “groupthink” and to follow established authority.

When we get comfortable around people who think as we do, especially in religious and spiritual groups, we can actually hinder our spiritual growth because we are not challenged by the "other" -- people who are different from us in some way. We hang out in our own "ghettos" -- it could be Christian, New Spiritual, Democratic or Republican, social activist, or other ghettos -- all the while believing that our way is the best. This false sense of superiority (spiritual pride) is like a cancer within our society, and unless we consciously try to overcome it, we are part of the problem and not part of the solution.


We are easy prey to negative forces in our society (I simply call this Darkness) that feed on our being divided into separate groups so as to exert power and control over us for their personal agendas. We consent to this domination of our interior spiritual consciousness and give the Darkness allegiance by supporting the social, cultural, political, and economic arrangements of the day. It has been this way since the beginning of history.

It is difficult to overcome these differences because we have become so used to being part of "in-groups" for so long. There is a sense of security and safety within our own groups, but the times call for us to reach out beyond ourselves and our personal comfort zone. It's time to challenge this pattern of group identification -- really, we are talking about our ego's identification with this world. I know I need to!

We are called to do something very difficult -- to see others not through the lens of belief and group identity, but through an available, open heart, and the deepest spiritual consciousness. As we overturn our petty judgments, assumptions, and fears about the "other," there will be discomfort and tension at first. But, building new relationships across boundaries by conquering our fear is the rocket fuel that will ignite a whole new level of spiritual and community consciousness.


There are grass-roots groups forming around the planet with the intention of healing these differences between us -- bringing people together -- people who have differing beliefs who are working to make the world a better place. I can speak to our effort in Reno, Nevada. We have spent the last five years growing what we call the Conscious Community Network, and in the last two years we have developed a small group process that focuses on personal and community transformation simultaneously. We call these folks who do this work "community weavers." I just spoke with someone who calls this type of person a community "mender."

So, instead of hanging out with others who simply reinforce our own sometimes cherished and insulated world view, we connect with each other heart to heart, beyond the intellect and ideology, building a community of practitioners -- people who want to grow in Love, to be in service to others, and who are wanting to weave the community as a whole together with this same power of Love. As a result, by simply being a catalyst for community "emergence," this approach has generated many, many projects and new social and economic networks.


Throughout history, there have been many names given to this grand vision of what is possible for humanity. Jesus called it the Kingdom of Heaven (…on Earth as it is in Heaven”). Dr. King called it the Beloved Community. Mahatma Gandhi and our friend Dr. Ariyaratne (Sri Lanka) point to it as Sarvodaya (Awakening of All through Sharing). These different names reflect the longing within our hearts that the power of Love can overcome the love of power.

A weavers' group is a humble attempt to support one another to live this “Kingdom” now, in the present moment, inside each of us, and with each other. And, to connect with one another in a new way beyond our “comfortable” group affiliations, to help this Kingdom break into the everyday reality of our busy lives -- in our families, businesses, with our physical neighbors, and all our relations in the community and world.

The spiritual and community revolution of Love, like Jesus spoke of and lived, bridged all divisions and walls between us. But here is the paradox: If you try to organize the power of Love and the Spirit into narrow containers such as religious and spiritual groups, over time, the result is always the same -- you either kill the Spirit and/or domesticate its potential power. The ego always rears its head, spiritual pride sets in, and people in one group naturally think they are better than people in other groups. People get comfortable and forget the professed purpose of the group. Perpetuating the group becomes more important, thereby becoming institutionalized. Groups always seem to become self-interested, compete with each other, and unwittingly create division.

How can break out of this cycle?


When you bring people of different beliefs together, who already belong to many groups, for the pure intention of supporting each other’s spiritual growth, connecting the community, and being a catalyst for the "Kingdom of God," you are not creating just another self interested group. We have found that it is possible to connect people and groups informally through an “emergent” network, without building a formal, self-interested structure. This liberates Spirit to flow freely through all of the new “nodes of intersection” of the continually developing social and economic infrastructure of the community. This is the literal “weaving” of community I’m describing. It is like building a larger “container” for Spirit to flow into, expand, and make real impacts in the lives of people at the grassroots level. What is missing is the entrenching of dogma, superiority, and lock-step ideology. What is created and experienced is freedom.

This form of servent leadership is the antidote to all "dominator" systems (within ourselves or the society) and their reproduction. Love, connection, and service become the glue holding this developing culture together. It is easy to start. Reach out and find others who are different from you and yet have the same longing for a new world. It doesn’t take large numbers. It just takes a small group of committed people to start weaving their community together keeping the highest vision in their hearts. What works in one region can work elsewhere as this kind of organic movement will erupt at the grass-roots level around the Earth. As thousands and millions of communities simultaneously participate in an unnamed eruption of Spirit, it is natural that new leaders will emerge at the grassroots in the spheres of social, economic, and political life and structures will then be changed from the bottom up.

The times call for this gentle approach -- and we can be more like mothers nurturing our children, helping each of us to grow in Love so that we may heal this broken world.



Posted by: Gerean Pflug
on Monday, September 15th,2008

Healing through nurturing each other...now there's a novel idea! I couldn't agree with you more, Richard. In her book, Kitchen Table Wisdom (Stories that Heal), Rachel Naomi Remen, M.D. discusses self-healing through recognizing one's capacity to influence the healing of others. A discovery was acknowledged that no matter how sick they are, people have an opportunity and a capacity to offer healing to others. Through awareness of this opportunity/capacity of influencing the healing of others, we often are able to recognize the power and strength of the healing force in our individual selves for the first time. This indicates to me that constant awareness of the fragile human spirit, combined with an intention to heal and be healed, creates an infinite loop of healing energy beginning at one-on-one, and rippling outward thereby influencing universal healing. I believe this. Thank you for investing the time, thought and energy into this very well written post. I for one, heard you and recognize the value of the message. ~Gerean Pflug